Just in case you thought I was more interested in destroying FetLife than destroying rape culture, allow me to direct your attention to my newest project:
The Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid (PAT-OKC) is an add-on to your Web browser that alerts of you of any red flags for a given profile as you browse OkCupid. A “red flag” is simply a public action taken by the given profile that is concerning, such as answering Match Questions in the same way an undetected rapist is statistically likely to answer them. For instance, given the following question, an answer of “Yes.” would be alarming:
Have you ever been in a situation where you tried, but for various reasons did not succeed, in having sexual intercourse with an adult by using or threatening to use physical force (twisting their arm, holding them down, etc.) if they did not cooperate?
This is not a hypothetical question, nor is the answer universally obvious. This is, in fact, the exact phrasing of a question used in a study called “Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists” by David Lisak and Paul M. Miller, published in Violence and Victims, Vol 17, No. 1, 2002 (Lisak and Miller 2002).
Tragically, a statistically significant portion of respondents answered in the affirmative. While much smaller than the portion of respondents who answered with a “no,” the fact that some people blithely answered “yes” makes these questions worth asking up-front, to everyone, all the time. The Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid automates this process and issues warnings if its heuristics find a concerning match.
This early warning system can help OkCupid users make better informed choices about what measures they feel they need to take to remain safe while using the service.
The following software must be installed on your system before installing the Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid user script.
To install the Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid, go to http://maybemaimed.com/playground/predator-alert-tool-for-okcupid/ and click “Download and install” near the middle of the page:
If you enjoy this script, please consider tossing a few metaphorical coins in my cyberbusking hat. :) Your donations are sincerely appreciated! Can’t afford to part with any coin? It’s cool. Tweet your appreciation, instead.
If maybemaimed.com is censored where you are, you can alternatively go to the Userscripts.org page for Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid and click on “Install”. If the tool is also unavailable there, you can alternatively download PAT-OKC from GitHub.com.
After installing the Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid (PAT-OKC), you will be presented with a welcome screen that describes the tool’s use, its limitations, and provides links to helpful safety information.
Click on the “Go” button and you’ll begin the installation questionnaire, modeled after the survey in Lisak and Miller’s study, cited above. It’ll look like this:
Complete the Match Questions in the PAT-OKC questionnaire just as you would an ordinary OkCupid question. When you submit your answer, you’ll automatically be redirected to the next required question. You’ll also be able to pause the questionnaire periodically and resume it later.
When you’ve completed all of the questions, you’ll be presented with a pop-up box that offers a brief summary of how to use the Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid:
If you encounter a profile on an OkCupid page whose behavior on the site is concerning, PAT-OKC will highlight links to that user’s profile in a red, blocky outline. Viewing that user’s OkCupid profile page will offer a full explanation of why that user’s profile was red-flagged.
Before you report a new issue with the Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid (PAT-OKC), please check to ensure your question is not already addressed in the list below.
The following articles are important reads that offer additional background and context for this issue:
- Meet The Predators
- Tracking rape culture’s social license to operate online
- Help dating websites’ Rape Culture FAADE Away
Each of the pages listed above also contain numerous additional links. I’d recommend reading them, too.
- Version 0.2.1:
- First public release.
- Version 0.2:
- Initial orientation path and installation questionnaire.
- Version 0.1:
- Initial working prototype.
P.S. Inquiries regarding the destruction of FetLife still welcome, of course.
I love how this makes more sense than doing 15 minutes of argumentative Trans 101 with an adult.
This legit makes me want to cry because I have *never* seen a picture of an older trans man naked. It’s always young guys, usually much younger than me. It’s like we don’t have a future, an adulthood, a middle age, an old age. It’s like we just stop.
As a trans man who’s well past the age (and transition status) of ~sexxay tranz boiz~, pictures like this give me some kind of hope. We’re not just one image stuck in time, snapshot of a skinny white andro urban-queer young trans dude with perfect top surgery scars, poster boys for young radical queerdom. We’re not all Youth. We live in more than two dimensions, and one of them is time.
Older queers tend to fall off the map full stop. Trans people, even more so. But we don’t disappear once we stop being, basically, fashionable. Supporting our young people is important, but we need to show them we have a future, too.
I literally cannot envision my own future. There are no images of older men like me.
One image obviously can’t address all the lacks in representation, much less one image of a hot skinny (apparently?) white man. But just to have that one extra factor in there, of age, it’s - it’s important.
my feelings exactly.
YES THIS IS VERY NECESSARY. Get with the times, tumblr!
i’m laughing that this is so viral a post
Seven is like, a deep brownish red, guys. It’s SO a color, come on.